2. Examples of Mistakes Leading to Health or Other Issues

Example 1 - Professional man in his thirties, unemployed for 18 months and had run out of money, wife starting to date other men in spite of them having a young child together. (Ministry via Messenger texting.) 

This man admitted that when he was at university he had behaved very badly towards many young women students. While I could guess what he meant I did not ask for details or require them for God to correct the problem. 

After confessing to his mistakes before God and acknowledging that he should not have behaved in that way, he was set free in a way that he could feel and sense. A new job in his field took about 3 months. 

Example 2 - Kenyan man in his fifties, in considerable pain from edema, the swelling of his lower body because of the retention of body fluid. His condition was so acute that his penis had retracted inside his body so that he could no longer urinate properly, either. While waiting for ministry he had wet all down his trouser leg. The edema and pain had been with him for about 6 months. (Ministry in person at a conference.)

When the usual, simple ministry brought no change in his pain, after questioning he revealed that a neighbour had stolen and sold his kuku (chicken) and refused to give him any money from the sale of it. 

After admitting before God that he should not have allowed enmity to develop with his neighbour in spite of what had happened, and after turning and facing the direction where the offence took place and, in the spirit, saying to the neighbour who was not present that he would like to be friends again, the pain left him. Within three days the edema had gone and he was completely well again.

Example 3 - Young woman, just 18, badly beaten and raped during a home invasion. Unable to even give me that information, asked me to get the basic details from a friend of hers. Had despaired of life, was angry, suffering from depression, anxiety and more. (Ministry via text over 18 months.)

After dealing with the assault issues and problems arising from that she was able to function better, although she could not relate to men at college because of anger. I found out some background information from her: due to a poor relationship with her father she had moved in to live with relatives in another city where she was attacked, and she had been calling the male relative, “Dad.” 

We dealt with anger and other problems as they arose. However, even many months later she still could not refer to anything that happened on the evening in question, and deal with it, nor was she willing to acknowledge that, had she dealt correctly with the problem with her father rather than running away, she would not have been anywhere near where the offence took place. She gradually moved from being antagonistic towards men in general into a relationship with a married man and became pregnant. Some unhealthy, illogical attitudes also surfaced, such as the idea that her new baby would grow up and give her the love she craved and felt she needed. Her 'marriage' was not working very well, either. 

At this stage I realised that I should have pushed harder long before to get her to confront the real issue, her relationship with her father. Once I repented and apologised before God for my own timidity and lack of action They were quickly able to open up a way for me to help her deal with her relationship with her father. She acknowledged the problem was hers, and that she should have never been where she was on the night she was attacked. She was set free after she forgave herself for her mistakes and could now talk freely about it and, more importantly, move on in life and make wise choices. 

Her attitudes changed almost instantly and she became a successful businesswoman, as well as a good mother in a productive marriage. 

Example 4 - Man in the US with chronic back pain, in his 80s. (Ministry via phone call.)

He had had the back pain for at least ten years, and pain killers did not help much. When he held out his hands before God the pain diminished a little, and then remained the same. When questioned about any relationship issues with anyone he admitted that he had been quite harsh with his wife over the years, and that he would like to stop and have God help him treat her with the gentleness and calmness she deserved. He apologised before God and also to his wife, who was in the room with him. 

This time the pain left completely and he texted me some months later to say how happy he was to be pain-free and released in that way.

Example 5 - Middle-aged man with pain all through his body for at least ten years. (During and after morning church service.) 

During the service there had been little to no change in his condition. I went up to him as the service was ending. He acknowledged that there had been a disagreement of sorts with someone, but wasn’t sure that anything could be done about it. He was a supervisor and had once written a report about an incident in which the other man was involved. As a result of the report the other man had lost his job, which was not the intention of the man standing before me. He had not spoken to the man afterwards, who  had since died. This is not a problem for healing, as events soon showed.

I led him in a simple apology before God and then had him face the direction in which the incident occurred. He apologised to the man as if he was standing in front of him - in a sense he was - and the pain left his body within a few seconds. 

Example 6 - Woman with 6 year old boy with badly inflamed adenoids, loud snoring, for 12 months. The mother asked me initially for money for medicine but I declined, as always, since it is more exciting to deal with the problem in God’s way. (Via Facebook Messenger.) 

At my request the woman held her hands over her son, told Inflammation to go, and the snoring stopped for a day or so. After asking some questions she revealed that her husband had left her several years earlier and she was raising the children by herself. She also acknowledged that they would argue before he would beat her, and that this would happen in front of the children. (When I asked if he beat her she said, with some surprise, “How did you know?”) I explained that, even though the children were not personally involved, they were witnessing something that was very traumatic for them, and for which many children feel unduly responsible for. It took some days for her to realise that this was not appropriate behaviour in front of children and that, at the very least, she needed to apologise before God and before the children for what she and their father had done. 

She eventually agreed to do so after her son’s condition worsened and became more of a problem at school. As she followed my written text instructions and apologised before God and to her absent husband for arguing with him in front of the children, and for allowing physical violence to develop, her son, who was sleeping and snoring loudly in the next room and unable to hear physically what his mother was saying, suddenly stopped snoring. At the same time his older brother was talking in his sleep, saying, "It's ok, it's ok." When she checked the youngest the next morning the inflammation had gone and when I checked some months later he was doing fine. 

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4. If you realise, like many others already, that you have missed this truth of God's Creation (the equality of men and women) and/or you realise that you have been mishandling His word, here is how to start putting things to right.  

"Repent" simply means "to change your mind." Once we change our mind changed actions can and will follow.  

"Confess" means to say what we have done wrong. 

"Contrition" means to be sorry for an action or thought.  

When we use these three tools together we see people set free of all sorts of sickness, pain, misfortune and error. We recommend that you stand and hold out your hands before God, palms upturned and open to receive, as you do this. 

You could say something like this before God, using the parts that apply to you:  

"Father/Papa/Lord God (use the term or word that works for you, or use another term you like),  

"I'm sorry that I have been thinking the wrong way about the relationship and connection between men and women. I'm sorry that I have misunderstood scripture and Your plan. I want to change, I want to agree with you in everything that I do. I want to now treat women as equal. 

"Thank you, Jesus, for setting me free."  > "Asante Yesu kwa kuniweka huru."

If we don't deal correctly with bad things that we do or bad things that happen to us then the enemy get advantage over us to do us harm. This harm could be in many forms, but common ways of bringing harm to people because of wrong actions result in sickness, pain, accident, loss, destruction and/or death. This is covered in much more detail on the website - www.thechurch.solutions/mistakes - in the section Enemy-Attack.

5. If you have actually done things that took advantage over another man, woman or child, especially in the form of verbal, physical or sexual assault, then this is the way to start dealing with those issues.  

We recommend that you stand and hold out your hands before God, palms upturned and open to receive, and face the direction in which the offense took place, or if the person involved is alive, face the direction in which you think they would be right now. 

You could say something like this before God, using the parts that apply to you: 

"Father/Papa/Lord God (use the term or word that works for you, or use another term you like),  

"I'm sorry that I ... (name the thing that you did and name the person involved, even if they are no longer alive). I should not have done that, it was very wrong. I will not do that again. 

"Thank you Jesus for setting me free in Your blood."  

Where possible say similar words to the victim in real life, without suggesting or apportioning any blame to them. (When apologising in this way to a person there is no need to add the last, 'Thank you Jesus' part.)  

This last part, where we don't try to blame the other person for anything that happened, is most important! That part is between them and God. Only when we accept responsibility for something we have done wrong, without blaming someone else, can we be set free.  

8a. The Fake Apology

There are few things worse than a fake apology, because it attempts to shift blame back to the victim of our bad behaviour under the guise of being a genuine attempt at reconciliation. In other words, during the apology we mention what it was that the other person did wrong, in our eyes, at least.

"I'm sorry I made you angry" is just one example of a fake apology.

As part of our apology we accuse the other person of doing something wrong themselves, by mentioning the way they responded badly to us.

It Is not appropriate to attempt, nor is it even possible, to apologise for the way someone else responds to something we did or said; we can only apologise for our own mistakes or actions.

8b. The Genuine Apology Solves Arguments Before They Start

We generally get upset when someone accuses us of words or actions which, in their eyes at least, were bad.

We tend to get upset because there usually is an element of truth in what they are saying, but we feel that it is being blown way out of proportion. Think this through beforehand; most occasions are repeats of something that has gone on before. Be ready for it.

Here Is some advice from Jesus which is well-worth considering:

"Agree with your adversary quickly, while you are in the way with him, that your opponent may not deliver you to the judge, and the judge deliver you to the officer, and you be cast into prison."  Matthew 5:25.

Metaphorically speaking, that simply says to not get involved In arguments, because the other person might win and a judgment of some sort or other, in the spiritual realm at least, be entered against you. 

Here is a proven method for handling these situations:

I. Look for the kernel of truth and accept it, no matter how painful or distorted it might seem.

II. Without making any argument about the exaggeration, the unfairness or injustice of it all, agree with that element of truth. If your wife says, "You are a lousy husband," pause briefly as if considering the accusation, and then agree by apologising (everyone can always do better at anything!) something like this:

"I'm sorry, I know I can do better, and I want to."

If she continues, "You're a lousy father," then examine what you could do to Improve, and suggest that after apologising again:

"I'm sorry, I could do better, I should spend more time with the children," or choose whatever action you could improve in.

If she says, "You don't bring home enough money," and you are not wasting your pay packet on frivolous items, apologise and offer a solution, or ask if she has a suggestion.

III. By this time the antagonist Is so shocked at agreement Instead of argument that they run out of further negative comments. 

IV. Whatever you do, do not ignore the temporary cease-fire, or enjoy the temporary lull in battle. Press home the advantage: you can wait for another time (don't leave it too long!) or invite further conversation about the issues raised.

Adapt this method to suit whatever situation you are in. It works!

10.  If You have considered or attempted suicide or self-harm, or wished or spoken a wish that you could, should or would die to avoid sickness, pain, hardship, trauma or something else.

This section is in three parts:

10.1 The origin, nature and manipulation of suicidal or self-harm thoughts and intentions;

10.2 Cancelling out suicidal and self-harm thoughts;

10.3 Keeping suicidal and self-harm thoughts at bay.

Section 10.1  The origin, nature and manipulation of suicidal or self-harm thoughts and intentions.

Note: Saying things like "I want to die," or "I don't want to live anymore" or "I just can't take this anymore" and the like can all be dealt with in this same way.

• God has no part in death.

1 Corinthians 15:26 states categorically: "The last enemy to be overcome is death." An enemy does not come from God. Further information with supporting scriptures can be found here.

• The enemy are totally responsible for death.

In John 10:10 Jesus put it this way:

"The thief comes to kill, steal and destroy, but I have come to bring life, and bring it more abundantly." The 'thief' He mentions is just a collective term for the enemy and their leader. 

In Ephesians 6:12 Paul describes the enemy as not "flesh and blood, but...the spirit forces of wickedness in the heavenly realm." While it is not fashionable in many areas today to talk about evil spirits, ignoring their reality does not make them go away, but we will show techniques in the next section that will make them do just that.

• At some point it becomes our decision to choose life.

"God has no pleasure in the death of him who dies, says the Lord God. Therefore turn and live."  Ezekiel 18:32

"I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses; therefore choose life, that you...may live." Deuteronomy 18:19. Curses, like death, come from the enemy, not God.

• Premature death is the enemy's trick to keep God's blessing from reaching us.

Jesus and Paul both taught that what we do in this life on Earth produces a variable reward which is paid out in Eternity, on Judgment Day. (You can read about God's Reward System here.) This is in addition to and on top of Salvation, which is paid out while we are alive, on Earth. 

While ever we draw breath we can take up the opportunities God regularly provides each one of us to boost that reward by blessing others. One life, one chance, for all Eternity (as far as we know). 

• In yielding to suicidal thoughts, words or actions we are offering our life to the enemy.

That's the exact opposite of offering our life to Jesus. While it won't affect our salvation, it will affect that eternal reward paid out to us on Judgment Day.

What's more, offering our life to the enemy in that way, since it is totally wrong before God, gives the enemy great power over us to do us harm and allows them to bring more torment into our lives. This can be through depression, oppression, self-harm, destructive and addictive behaviour, evil manipulation, thefts and loss, confusion, assaults, sickness, accidents, seemingly continual runs of 'bad' circumstances and any evil action that you can think of.

Note: It is easy to think that if the enemy are responsible for death, then 'offering ourselves to them via death' will solve our problems. However, their 'system' does not work like that.

a. The enemy are fighting us, they are not fighting God;

b. The enemy hate us and will do anything possible up to the limits set by God to harm us;

c. If we follow their temptation, any temptation, that does not give us their approval - instead, it gives them further opportunity to harm us because we are not following God.

d. Following any temptation of the enemy reduces our reward on Judgment Day. (All and any temptation comes from the enemy, not from God.)

We will show how to undo this shortly - see 10.2.

If you have never offered your life to Jesus, we will show you how to do that, too.

• Whatever the problem, God has a solution.

When we are going through the circumstances we tend to think:

"No one else has had to deal with what I have to deal with," 

or

"My situation is different - no one else will understand." 

1 Corinthians 10:13 expresses the truth in this context very well:

"For no temptation (no trial) (the Greek word used here, 'peirazo', can mean either) has overtaken you that is not common to man." 

In other words, other people, nearby or elsewhere, have suffered in the same way as we have or are suffering. Our situation is not unique, although some of the circumstances possibly will be. 

Three things can keep us from sharing carefully about our problem: fear, shame, and pride. These are not Godly attributes, but their origin and reinforcement come from the enemy alone. A fourth, despair, is designed to keep us locked into a state where all hope for change or improvement is gone.

1 Corinthians 10:14 goes on:

But God is faithful not to let you be tempted (or tested) beyond your ability, but with the temptation (or test, neither of which God sends, according to James 1:13-14) He will also provide the way out, that you may bear up under it patiently." (AMP, but note that words not in italics have been added by me for clarification.)

Let's break this verse down:

e) God sets limits on what the enemy can do to harm us, whether by temptation or by testing/trial;

f) God provides a way out or through the circumstances.

Temptation: a thought with evil intent that is applied to our mind/thoughts from a malicious, external source in such a way as to make it seem like a logical, natural thought that originated in our own consciousness, reason or wisdom. It is not.

Test/Trial: the manipulation of negative circumstances around us and affecting us in such a way that they seem out of or beyond our control. To be fair, they are generally a result of things we have done that we should not have done, or things done to us to which we can respond differently to the way we have responded so far. 

This is a test or trial designed by the enemy to destroy us, and sometimes they are successful in that when the person under trial gives up. However, since "we are assured that all things work together for good to those that love God" (Romans 8:28) we also know that God has a way through the situation. At the time that is often not easy to see, (actually, it can seem to be impossible to see when under pressure) but sections 10.2 and 10.3 show how to change circumstances around.

Under pressure, the immense pressures that come to anyone under sickness, pain, trauma or whatever circumstance that seems too hard to bear, many of us ignore the truths of God's Word and give up too soon. Others are completely ignorant of God's provisions under these circumstances.

Let Hebrews 4:16, from The Amplified Bible, be our guide to persevere no matter what:

" Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the throne of God's unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive mercy [for our failures] and find grace to help in good time for every need [appropriate help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it]. (Bold type added for emphasis.)

To be continued...

10.2  Cancelling out suicidal and self-harm thoughts

10.3  Keeping suicidal and self-harm thoughts at bay

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